Sunday, December 28, 2014

No One Gets Flowers For Chronic Pain


This was a thought that just occurred to me a few days ago--no one gets flowers for chronic pain. People get flowers when they have have a heart attack, break a leg, surgery, cancer--hospitalized for any reason overnight. Not that I'm trying to compare what I'm going through with cancer. At this point, I don't necessarily see cancer as a death wish now, like ALS but it is comparable in a lot of ways--effects everything you do and you're constantly surrounded by doctors, dealing with a lot of emotional and clearly physical pain. (Crazies of the internet--I am not saying you shouldn't be sad about cancer and that some people obviously die from it.)

I'm sure most people just see this as my daily life now and if I'm not outwardly crying and have a smile on my face (which is the norm), everyone just assumes I'm okay. Like I've said a million times before, even when I describe in detail and unless you're around me 24/7 (Sorry Mom and Dad!), you just can't know. Or you just don't want and I totally understand why. It's a lot of sad shit sometimes and I wouldn't judge you for not wanting to invest your time involving yourself in it going into detail. 

Side note: this isn't a pity post--I wouldn't want flowers because you feel sorry for me. I would want flowers as "I respect what you're going through and I think you're handling it well. Here's something beautiful to look at while you continue to deal with it." flowers. 

But then again, I am the kind of person who would send someone flowers just for dealing with life anyway…everyone should be respected and appreciated for dealing with whatever shit they're dealing with anyway. Let's face it, pain or not, there are a lot of people out there dealing with a lot stuff. 


Then again, I've been really #blessed by having really considerate parents. These were "Happy Ides of March" flowers I received at work from my dad. I really am lucky to have them. 






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